The college admissions process has occasionally been likened to an old-fashioned mating ritual.

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It starts out with mutual flirtation: student flirts with colleges, requesting information and perhaps visiting campuses; colleges flirt with student, sending emails and a forest-full of brochures, mailings and catalogues.

It starts to get a little more serious: student may decide to “go steady” and apply as a binding Early Decision candidate which means that if they are accepted, they must attend. Many students choose to “play the field” and open up their search to include many colleges and universities.

Students apply, also known as the “promposal” period: this is when they desperately demonstrate their love. They solicit letters of recommendation, send in affirmations in the form of transcripts and test scores and write elaborate essays for each of their hopeful prospects.

Colleges are now playing hard-to-get and are in hibernation mode, putting off making any decisions for months and months. Colleges hold all the cards in this phase and won’t share details on their commitment potential. Students sweat through the waiting period and then the notifications start arriving.

The answers start arriving: and students are often pleasantly surprised at the number of colleges that have now decided they love them back, or they may be deflated by the break-up news when they receive rejection letters. Then there are the colleges who just can’t decide and they inform students that they need more time, stringing them along with no commitment at all. They ask students if they’re willing to wait; some students choose to wait and others turn them down because they received better offers.

Wait-listed students need to decide how much energy they want to invest in these relationships, because wait-lists are very unpredictable. Some students have unrealistic hopes and expectations of a “destined” relationship that perhaps was never meant to be; but alas, it is often a one-sided romance. Try to prevent yourself from getting hurt again and again by finding colleges that love you just as much or more than you love them.

Offers are now on the table: and students are in control and colleges are now the suitors. They eagerly await decisions from students; often times making personal calls, sending gifts and welcoming them back to campus on “Accepted Stu-dent Days.” They serve the best food on these special days, food that students won’t see again until graduation week-end. Campuses are as clean as Main Street in Disney World and everyone is happy.

After recovering from what can be a most devastating break-up, most students can identify which college represents the best fit for them. They pick themselves up, dust themselves off, make a solid decision and live happily ever after.

A favorite anecdote/statistic overheard at a college counselor conference is that by Halloween, 95 percent of students are at their “first choice” school! Kids are resilient and most are happy wherever they ultimately choose to go.



Rick Diamond
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Rick Diamond is a family-focused, business-driven financial services veteran. He works tirelessly to educate clients on complex financial options for themselves, their families, and their businesses. Rick founded The ROI Group to fill a void in financial education, and believes that with the right tools, people can make sound financial decisions. Pressure not included.

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